My Mom :-)

And not but five days behind my Dad comes my amazing Mom – who also turns the big 6-0 this year with a daughter turning 3-0 just a few months behind her! 

 

What a blessing my Mother has been in my life.  I never realized my mom was so amazing until I started comparing – let me explain: in my little world, it just seemed obvious that a Mom would do what my Mom did.  Unfortunately for many others, that is just not so.  My mom is so supportive – even with the phone call from her 11th grade daughter letting her know she was never going to play basketball again, her response was, ‘Karolyn, that’s fine.  Just come home.’  I know many parents that would’ve redirected or told me to suck it up or talk about how ungrateful I was that I’d been given the entire summer to play and now I just wanted to throw it away.  But she didn’t.  I’m sure she knew I’d play again once the fatigue passed, but it was so reassuring knowing I didn’t have to perform to be loved.

My mom made my lunch through my junior year of high school (my senior year I didn’t eat at school, or I’m sure she would’ve made it then too) – she did my laundry up until I left for college – and she came to every event I ever participated in.  I’m talking I had to request for her to NOT attend some things.  I never realized that some Moms didn’t do this until I was in college and had several teammates and friends whose moms had NEVER shown up to sporting events.  My heart broke for them and swelled with the amount of appreciation I had for my mom being one of my #1 supporters and encouragers. 

At times, my mom would cook four different variations of a meal just to appease all of the eaters at our home (I was always doing some strange diet, my mom has salt restrictions, my sister was vegetarian for parts of middle school and high school and I’m pretty sure my dad just wanted to be fed).  Not that this caretaking of hers allowed us to be lazy, I don’t want you to think that.  We still had stuff to take care of around our house, but my mom’s heart is a servant’s heart.  She serves and serves.  She cleaned and she cooked and she cheered and she loved and she listened and she did some more and then woke up and did it all over again.  And, now, here I am raising a family of my own and I realize that magnitude of what she did.  And please note she always had a full-time job while I was growing up.  I’m trying to make it all work in our little family and it’s challenging.  It’s tough.  And I’m so thankful I have an example where I have seen it done.  And done well.

As I’ve grown up and seen my Mom for more of who she is rather than just a parent in my life, I’ve also grown a greater appreciation for her as a person.  She’s shown me it’s never to late to change, to learn, to grow, to get better.  She’s been intentional about chasing her dreams – about finishing her Master’s, moving to California, marrying Jim, etc.  She’s been intentional in improving – in having difficult conversations, in forgiving, in asking for forgiveness.  I’ve been impressed by her example.  And I love our relationship.

It was the coolest thing to get to live with my sister as an adult and have my mom within driving distance.  We had our Wednesday girls nights and plenty of get togethers in between.  It was the greatest thing to be newly married and have my mom a drive away to meet up for dinner a few times a month (also a huge part in how I even became a newlywed!).  It was the perfect situation to be new to this parenting gig and having a mom live a drive away and so willing to love and invest in Kalyb’s life.  I miss the drive.  I miss having my mom close.  But, I’m so thankful for the mom that I have.  For the example that I have.  For the life she is living.  And the love that she gives. 

Happy Birthday, my sweet Mother!  I can’t wait to celebrate with you this weekend!!!  I LOVE YOU!

2011…

1. What did you do in 2011 that you’d never done before?

Parented.  Whew – that will show you your need for Jesus!

2. Did you keep your New Year’s resolutions, and will you make more for next year?

I chose not to do resolutions last year and was quite satisfied and have chosen the same for this year.  I’d like to be intentional in all that I do and that about sums up my life motto for this season – so, it’s not really a resolution but a lifestyle I’m trying to incorporate.

3. Did anyone close to you give birth?

My cousin, Heather in early December to another little boy, Felix!  And, since I’m waiting so late to write this and it’s not just a 2011 update, my sister-in-law, Nichole had a little boy on January 4^th, Anthony.  So many boys in this family!!

4. Did anyone close to you die?

My Grandpa passed away in March after a few weeks of illness.  So thankful that he didn’t suffer for long.  So thankful that I got to see him before he went.  So thankful for family that got to get together and celebrate his life twice.  And, most importantly, so thankful for the example he set.
5. What countries did you visit?

Good old US of A.  I believe we went to Mexico a few times for dental work for the Hubs, and that’s about it!  Although many Texans consider this place their own country, so we could go ahead and include Texas in that count!

6. What would you like to have in 2012 that you lacked in 2011?

Stability in where we live which shouldn’t be a problem – we don’t see any moves in 2012.  Well, perhaps LATE 2012 but it’d be within our complex, so that’s not quite a daunting.

7. What dates from 2011 will remain etched upon your memory, and why?

March 3^rd – the day my amazing Grandpa passed away.  July 17^th – the day we began our trek eastward.  November 19^th – the day I left to go pick up Kalyb in Germany.

8. What was your biggest achievement for the year?

Not too many achievements in 2011 – I was awarded ‘Support Teacher of the Year’ from King Chavez before I left which was really special.  And I think an achievement is becoming a better wife and (step) mother.  Also really thankful that I secured a job in Texas – one that I LOVE!  That’s an achievement, this day in age.

9. What was your biggest failure?

This gentle, encouraging, supportive wife thing is challenging for me – but so thankful that it draws me closer to Jesus and that I married a man so patient, forgiving, and loving with me.

10. Did you suffer illness or injury?

Is homesickness an illness?  Sure missed my west coast family and friends a lot.  Still do.

11. What was the best thing you bought?

Hmm…we’re trying to turn away from buying too much (thanks, Jesus courtesy of promptings by Dave Ramsey) – but I really like the things that my mom helped me buy to make our bathroom complete.  That and a $10 TV antennae – who knew I would miss a functioning TV that much?
12. Where did most of your money go?

Debt, debt and more debt.  Discouraging at times – but so encouraging that we see the light at the end of the tunnel!

13. What did you get really excited about?

Getting out of debt!  Coaching volleyball and basketball – I’m constantly amazed at how intense 7^th grade sports can get.  That and teaching Kalyb about Jesus – so amazing to watch his heart change!

14. What song will always remind you of 2011?

Nothing comes to mind…I prefer silence when I can get it.

15. Compared to this time last year, are you:
-Happier or sadder?

Sadder – away from family and friends, but slowly becoming happier

-Thinner or fatter?

Thinner for unbeknownst reasons.

-Richer or poorer?

Richer in love – and since we’re closer to being out of debt, richer in that sense too.

16. What do you wish you’d done more of?

Nothing comes to mind here either…I was blessed with a very fulfilling 2011.

17. What do you wish you’d done less of?

Probably facebook.

18. How did you spend Christmas?

Two weeks of celebrating with all families: we started with just the three of us, went to AZ for time with Mom & Jim, Becca, and Dad and then we spent actual Christmas in Amarillo with Nichole & family and Lynn & Rudy before having a late Christmas with Randy & Mari.  We are blessed beyond measure.

19. What was your favorite TV program?

We’re gluttons for Grey’s.  That’s about all we watch really.

20. What were your favorite books of the year?

Kisses from Katie by Katie Davis, the new Nicholas Sparks one, Feathers from my Nest by Beth Moore.

21. What was your favorite music this year?

I always enjoy David Crowder and Jeremy Camp.

22. What were your favorite films of the year?

Surprisingly – Warrior.  I’m not a huge movie fan and that’s about all I can remember right now.  But, really, it was that good.  Go see it.

23. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?

I turned 29 (which for those of you mathmeticians out there, means I’ll be 30 in a few weeks) – my Mom and Jim took us up to LA for Broadway’s Beauty and the Beast, Josiah took me out to Sushi, and we had a fun party at our house to wrap things up that weekend.  So fun J

24. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?

Being with Jesus.

25. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2011?

Hmm…I wouldn’t say I have much of a concept of fashion.  Comfortable.  And sometimes cute when I have the time.

26. What kept you sane?

JESUS!  The prayers of the righteous.  A husband who laughs with me.

27. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2011.

It’s important to be secure in your convictions with Biblical support because there are many people even in the body who have differing opinions.  And although it can be challenging, we are called to help create unity whenver we can – using God’s Word as our Source.

Happy Birthday, Pops!

My dad is 60 today.  He’s completed 60 years on this planet!  And he is about to have a daughter who has completed 30.  If 60 doesn’t make you feel old, having a daughter who’s 30 just might.

Every year near my parents’ birthdays I think of how I need to write a blog to commemorate them.  And then I forget until about 3 days past…and at that point, it’s almost my Mom’s birthday and then I’m two blogs behind and then the motivation passes because being that pressure to perform can be overwhelming.  So I started early this time.  Plus, 60 is a pretty big deal.

I love my Dad.  My Pops.  Grandpa Tom – or Grandpa Thomas, as Kalyb is now calling him.  I’ve received many compliments on our relationship and many friends have wanted to trade dads for a day.  He is someone to be reckoned with.  To start off with, my Dad is hilarious.  Hil-ar-i-ous, I tell you.  When he’s in the right mood, that man can captivate an entire audience.  I remember once sitting out on our porch in Arizona and he amused a friend and I with a laser light for a solid 30 minutes.  He just has that ability.  On a picture I found of my dad from when he was about 9, my Gramma had written on the back of it, ‘Tommy.  He doesn’t say much, but when he does talk he sure has something to say!’.  At first, I didn’t agree with that.  I feel like my dad is very social and outgoing.  He can be.  But he is also an observer.  He can sit.  I love that about him.  He’s fine just to be.  I like to go, go, go so spending a weekend with him is like a vacation in and of itself because of his ability to make time to sit.  To sit and read the newspaper.  To sit and read a book.  To sit and watch a show.  To sit in the quiet.  He says on some weekends, he’ll sit at home and realize he hasn’t spoken all weekend so will just say, ‘hello’ aloud to hear himself.  Funny, that guy.

On January 28^th, my dad will have been sober for 24 years.  Although I didn’t know what it meant at the time, I still vividly remember my dad pouring alcohol down the sink when I was 5 years old.  He never looked back.  Not to say he didn’t want to or didn’t struggle, that I don’t know.  But what I do know is I am so thankful for a sober Dad in my life to raise me.  I see the effects of what could’ve been in other people’s lives with parents who weren’t sober and I am so grateful.  Because of this my dad was one of my top fans throughout my entire basketball career (my mom and Grandpa being tied for this position as well).  My dad was home for dinner with the family almost nightly as I grew up.  He traveled to visit me in college, to support me in my games and he sent me the biggest card in the world when I was chosen to be a co-captain on my basketball team.

My dad might not be one for overtly sharing words of affirmation with me all of the time – in fact, not much that I can even remember – yet I have truly never doubted how proud my dad is of me.  How much he loves and supports me.  He has spoken some incredible truths into my life, without even realizing it.  I can’t tell you how often I call my dad just to ask a question – how do I do this?  Do you know how I would do that?  Did you hear about so and so?  And he answers that phone.  Almost every time.  Without fail.  And, if he doesn’t, he’ll call back within 5 minutes.  He’s dependable.  He’s trustworthy.  He’s a man of character and integrity.

And, this last year he lost his own Father.  He’s barely had the time to mourn as he’s stepped up to the plate to take care of his Mom.  She lives a six hour drive away, but he is there once or twice a month just catching up on things.  He keeps track of her medicine, helps her find remotes, cancels subscriptions she’s inadvertently made, takes care of her home, listens to her, etc.  For the past ten years, he’s talked to his parents daily.  I can’t even imagine not being able to talk to my Dad, and now not only is he without his dad to talk to every day, he’s taking care of his mom every day.  He’s dependable.  He’s trustworthy.  He’s a man of character and integrity.  (Did I mention that?)

I’m blessed to have that kind of role model in my life.  A man that’s provided.  A man that’s worked hard.  A man that knows how to have fun and knows the value of rest.

I pray that he feels rested today.  That he has a peace that transcends all understanding.  That he is so consumed by the love of our God as he celebrates these 60 years.  I want so many things for my Dad.  Thank you, Dad, for all that you’ve done.  For the incredible amount of support, of love, of admiration, and of stability you’ve provided in my life!  I am one lucky daughter!  HAPPY BIRTHDAY!! I love you!

January Update

Sitting… at my desk observing my students attempt to ‘prove’ what they have learned over these past few months while preparing for our semester exams

Drinking…nothing.  And desperate for water.  Just give me water!

Wondering…how Kalyb’s day is going over at school.  Last week proved to be a challenging one and we’re just hoping for better choices.

Preparing…for life after basketball.  I bought a few scrapbooking items yesterday and am getting anxious to document the past two years of life. (has it been two years already?!)

Enjoying…listening to laughter – our home and my classrooms and the gym are full of it and it’s a beautiful thing.

Anticipating…our last few weeks of basketball games.  I get so into this coaching thing, it can almost be embarrassing as I gain my composure and realize I’ve just been jumping up and down while shouting uncontrollably.  Can’t say I don’t care.

Reading…”Untamed” – a great book on discipleship.  And “Feathers from my Nest” by Beth Moore, a lady I’d love to be when I grow up

Dreading…another morning like today – I woke up to a text from the other junior high coach that read ‘I’m running so late it’s not even funny’ before realizing that I was also running so late it wasn’t even funny.  Not a fun way to start a Monday.

Thinking…I really hope that at some season in my life I get to be a stay-at-home mommy or at least a part-time stay-at-home-mommy.  I know that’s years from now, if even at all, but I can dream.

Remembering…that I am loved.  Deeply.  By many people and by Jesus.  And that love covers a multitude of sin, thank God!

Deciding…what I want to do with my life.  Seriously. As I approach 30, I’m looking at a lot of things.

Copying…final exams

…and you??

Christmas Greed, Gratitude, and Grumblings…

The other evening, we watched Kalyb break down in tears.  However, it wasn’t the type of cry that evokes my maternal instincts to comfort and console.  I was embarrassed.  He should be embarrassed.  We’re raising him ‘better than this’, I promise!

The heartbreak had already begun when he opened his 3^rd present and received pajamas.  Something he needs, mind you, as his pajamas from years past slowly creep up his lengthening legs.  But compared to the automatic nerf-gun thingamajig and the lighted, flip able remote controlled piece of glory he had already received, pajamas fell a little short in his 5 year old mind.  Before opening his final present (of his sixth Christmas celebration in addition to receiving several articles from my friends), his Grandpa even prompted him, ‘this one is clothes too.’

He eagerly tore into the wrapping paper and struggled with the tape before unveiling….pants and a shirt.  Tears welled up, the arms crossed and forced sobs erupted from his body.  We all stared in disbelief for a moment before I fully realized what was going on and immediately directed him to a back bedroom. 

As I crouched in front of him trying to explain the ungrateful attitude he was presenting and the consequences that might follow, I was humbled.  How often do I pout about the gifts the Lord has given me because they aren’t exactly what I pictured?  How many adult temper tantrums (that mask themselves in harsh words, passive aggressive actions and silence) have I thrown when what I’ve received isn’t what I feel ‘I deserve’?

Although I never said the word ‘selfish’ in this particular conversation, Kalyb adamantly claimed, ‘but I’m NOT selfish!’.  We have had many conversations of this battle we fight between flesh and spirt, so embarking on this topic of selfishness was not unheard of.  Yes, Kalyb, we are selfish.  We innately want to protect ourselves- guard our hearts from pain and disappointment (like receiving pj’s), get what causes our own self joy (like remote controlled objects and guns), and indulge in the momentary satisfactions of our own desires (such as toys, toys, and more toys!).  I agree with you, son, that many choices you make involve you denying yourself and looking out for the good of others.  But right now, in this moment, you’re choosing to act selfish.

What’s crazy is that two weeks ago, we celebrated our first Dicken family Christmas time with just the three of us.  We prayed and talked about the meaning of Christmas and what Jesus’ life came to mean to us.  Kalyb excitedly opened his stocking and was thrilled – the $1 glow-in-the-dark snowman stick and the $1 2-pack of silly putty stole the prize.  He passionately encouraged us to open our gifts as he reveled in the awesomeness of his new gifts, not realizing some of the wrapped presents lingering under the tree were also for him.  And, not knowing that five other gift-opening opportunities would follow over the next two weeks (one with my mom, Jim & Becca, one with my dad & Becca, one with Josiah’s mom, stepdad, sister & family (including gifts from his mom’s extended family), one with Josiah’s dad, stepmom and family, and one with the gifts from his mom).

We watched a greediness follow.  As he opened more, he expected more.  Once remote controlled cars, bowling sets, and walkie-talkies appeared, hugs would follow and quotes like ‘just what I always wanted’ would graciously pour from his lips.  Upon opening books and clothes, a pout would follow.

How much am I like this?  Quick to sing praises as my circumstances fit my desires.  Quick to complain as His plans don’t always strike my fancy.  I didn’t want to move to TX.  I didn’t want to leave my friends and family.  I don’t like working 12-15 hour days, 5 days a week for going on 5 months.  And at times, I’ve complained (like right now).  I’ve wondered why it isn’t what I want and, I admit, I’ve broken down into tears over it.  I’ve cried.  I’ve crossed my arms.  I’ve pouted.  And I’ve been selfish.

As Kalyb re-entered the room where he had previously melted down, he apologized.  He thanked them for the gifts he needed although he might not have wanted them.  He mistakenly apologized for being ‘unselfish’ but meant ‘selfish’.  And, his grandpa was quick to say, ‘it’s okay’.  His Grandma and I were quick to correct him – no, it’s not okay.  It’s not okay or acceptable to act like that.  It’s forgivable, yes.  Understandable, maybe.  But okay?  No, it’s not.  In our selfishness, we become blinded to God’s provision, God’s blessing, God’s plan that far outdoes our own vision and agenda.  That is not okay.

 I’ve been blessed immensely these past five months living in a state that is dear to my heart but so far from friends and family that are even dearer.  But, we’ve been blessed.  My husband becomes more amazing each day – serving, loving, growing, leading, challenging and encouraging.  Kalyb humbles us and reminds us for our dependency on Jesus as we so desire to train him in the Lord’s ways – and it’s such an encouragement to be a part of that transformation.  We were able to see everyone in our immediate families over the past few weeks.  And we’ve climbed out of so much debt by being faithful with what we’ve been given.

Lord, help me see what you give me as something I need to experience in order to know you more.  Those challenges that seem so frustrating; help me praise You.  The times where my patience is running thin; let me be filled with You.  Those times I want to cry because I’m overwhelmed and burnt out (namely days like today); let me rejoice that your joy does, in fact, come in the morning! (And particularly tomorrow because I get to sleep in an extra hour and a half.)  Time and time again!

171

Well, folks – this is my 171st blog post.  Who knew?!  I love wordpress’ dashboard that has all of this fun information.  I’ve always been one for numbers and data…rumor has it that at my 5th birthday part, I was taking stats on who was winning all the games.  Apparently that competitive nature starts early too.

Things have been so fun around here lately.  Two weeks ago, I was on my way to Germany to pick up Kalyb.  He had been having a difficult time transitioning to life in Germany, so his mother decided it would be best for him to come back with us.  I can’t imagine having to make such a decision and I commend Maggie for making such a selfless and difficult choice.  In trying to be as sensitive and respectful to that situation as I can be, it’s difficult sometimes to blog about our life with Kalyb.  Don’t you worry – for his sake, I’ve got something else under my sleeve that maybe at some point in the next 20 years he’ll actually care about.  Until then, I’ll keep on keeping on!

We so appreciate all the love, prayers, and support that have come our way.  Kalyb is attending kindergarten at the school that I teach at (although I’m on the secondary level, it’s still all on the same campus) – he had a pretty good week: 1 AWESOME day, 2 GREAT days, and 2 days we need to work on.  If we can keep improving from there, we’ll be good to go!  He’s become a little twitterpated with my co-worker’s 2nd grade daughter and they get to play together after school each day.  We’ve been busy, busy, busy trying to work out how to share one car, get everyone to their activities on time, etc. etc.  On Wednesday, we were surprised with a little ‘Welcome Kalyb’ party that my co-worker put on.  I can’t tell you how thankful and loved we felt!  THANKS so much, my people at Life School, who support me us so well!

And we’ve been laughing like no other.  Seriously, this kid is COMICAL.  His one liners, wit, and comebacks have me rolling!  We try to explain things are funny ONLY the first time, but as he so graciously pointed out, ‘you’re still laughing and it’s the second time, so it must still be funny’.  Oh dear.

It is so humbling to live life with a little one.  Having him around reminds me to speak more gently and lovingly to my husband if I’m going to have someone emulating my actions.  Having him around reminds me of my DESPERATE need for Jesus as I cling to Him for direction, wisdom, strength and patience.  Having him around reminds me to be careful what I’m doing as there will be someone else doing the same thing.  It is such a blessing.  I’m so aware of making sure that my choices, thoughts, and actions reflect Christ and his love and grace.  I love raising Kalyb with my husband – he is such an incredible dad: so doting, and fun, and consistent, and always willing to do more and to get better.

Three weeks ago as I woke up to enjoy a quiet Saturday of coffee and quiet time, I thought to myself, ‘well, here’s my last quiet Saturday for  quite some time’…however, here I am again!  Enjoying a quiet Saturday morning by the tree, the candles, and the lights as my boys sleep the morning away.  Every now and then I think I hear some rustling, but it seems to be just sleep adjustments as there have been no footsteps yet!

This is clearly not a thought-out and organized post, but I forgot to mention Thanksgiving!  We got to enjoy Thanksgiving over at Tio Pepe and Aunt Ruby’s – Pepe (aka Joe) is Mari’s brother (Mari is Josiah’s step-mom: who followed all of that?!).  We had a blast!  There were about five other kids that Kalyb got to play with, we had a cake contest for the boys (YUM!), and enjoyed a fabulous time with friends and family!  And, we got to watch the game.  I miss not having football on around here.  Strange, I know.  Hopefully a pic of that day is coming soon!  We wrapped up the evening with a competitive game of ‘Fish Bowl’ (Seriously: Thanksgiving games might bring out the worst in me, I vividly remember having a temper tantrum last Thanksgiving regarding a game, and the tradition continued this year…refer back to paragraph one’s explanation of a competitive nature).

Anyways, we have lots of fun traveling adventures coming up within the next month – looking forward to Christmas celebrations with all of our family!  We are so incredibly blessed!  And, to toot our own horn (and give glory where glory is due, thank you Jesus!) – we have paid off another credit card!  Leaving us with only one credit card payment, a large government debt, and a small debt remaining – we should be DEBT FREE in another year! YAHOO!!

12 Weeks…

Perhaps at one point in our lives, a blog will start out with a similar name and be about a different subject altogether, but for now, that is not the case

I’ve counted it up and have realized I have been back in Texas for 12 weeks as of today.  WHEW – how time flies!!  (Josiah joined me about a week later, so he’s just short of being out here 12 weeks…but, I’ll tell you what, those first five days made a difference because of the UNBEARABLE heat that was out here…)

So, I’m going to try to sum it up (which is laughable for anybody who knows me).  I arrived just in time to receive a call asking me to show up to work in an hour.  After jumping off the plane, renting a car, and finding my way to Oak Cliff, I made it in time for a coach’s orientation.  I might have looked a hot mess, but they were impressed I got there that fast.  And that about sums up my 12 weeks: it’s been fast and furious!!  I stayed with a former teammate the first five days that I was here (thanks, Karen!) and got to see a few Lady Eagles (Angel, Bobo, and Roz) as well.  That first week I was back was also my little sister, Alisha’s, birthday.  The first one we’ve gotten to spend together in quite some time!  Unfortunately, I was exhausted and had plans at 7 the next morning, so we couldn’t do anything too exciting – but it was nice just to know we are back in the same vicinity (although we have not seen each other since…)

Josiah arrived and we stayed with his dad and stepmom (what a blessing to have them close by!) before making our trek out to Oak Cliff.  Some of you know about the debaucle and for those of you that don’t - our stuff arrived 2 1/2 weeks late so we got to spend our first anniversary on an air mattress (Josiah) and a couch (Karolyn) in an apartment with a non-functioning air conditioner (think 92 humid degrees) but thankfully enjoyed a delicious dinner of sushi and some Marble Slab beforehand (both at air conditioned facilities)!  (I suppose I should do another blog altogether on our anniversary….note to self).

The first two weeks, I spent at training for my new job.  Fun to get acclimated and meet all the new faces and get a better idea of what was expected of me.  My students came back to school on August 15th – the first day Josiah embarked on his new endeavor!  It’s been fun going through a semester together   Josiah is LOVING school and meeting lots of great friends, learning lots of great information, and enjoying a unique college experience!

Also in that first week began volleyball try-outs.  A sport of which I know nothing about.  Nada.  The Athletic Director assured me this was okay due to the fact I probably knew more than most 7th graders.  I’ll give him that – but what a learning curve!  We just wrapped up our season last week and didn’t even win a match   (for the record, there will be no more information or further blogs on that topic…).  We got to spend a weekend helping Ginny and Kingsley move to their new home in Krum before spending the next weekend in San Antonio!!  This was our actual celebration of our one year – and although I didn’t realize it before, getting married in August is definitely conducive to a 3 day weekend getaway over Labor Day, so hopefully we’ll continue that tradition.  We had a great time exploring the city, eating too much, enjoying each other’s company and even getting to see a few of my friends.  We had such a great time!! I do love that husband of mine.

We joined The Oaks Fellowship (a church we LOVE) and started attending a Marriage Class they offered – it’s been fun to spend some time with other couples learning more about our roles in marriage.  Of course, I’m struggling with the implementation part – but I’m a work in progress!!  We were blessed with the arrival of my mom on September 16th!!  She flew into town to check out our new digs and to get some QT girl time in – what a fun weekend we had!!  We spend Saturday at a grape festival (read: wine) in Grapevine and then my mom and I headed out to Monica’s that night for an evening of carbs, sugar, and conversation!  (We LOVE those girls!!).  Sunday, we went to church at the aforementioned and enjoyed a great service and mom even got to meet some co-workers, bosses, and students while we were there   We spent the afternoon shopping whilst my mother thoroughly spoiled me and then met up with Randy and Mari for a delicious dinner at Pappadeaux’s.  YUMMY.  Monday was very sad as Josiah dropped me off at work and then took my Mama back to the airport   It was so great to have her out here and I can’t wait to see her again in less than two months.  We were so spoiled getting to live within 100 miles of each other before.  (this weekend should also receive its own post…)

Thursday, September 28th, my husband joined me up at school in the morning where we were a part of ‘See You At The Pole’ with about 30 students.  It was a great way to start our day   My husband in the meantime has also become ‘The Voice of the Lions’ aka the Announcer at our high school football games.  It’s so fun having him involved on my campus and naturally, he’s a fan favorite   And a personal favorite of mine…

We’ve spent some time having couples over for my husband’s amazing cooking (seriously the best alfredo sauce I’ve ever had.  Could have eaten that healthy concoction by its lonesome.), working out (the couples don’t do this with us - this is usually an individual activity or I’m at a bootcamp – I think we’d really scare people off), organizing our home (always a work in progress as well), hanging out with family, meeting new people, living, laughing and learning.  A lovely season indeed.

Basketball practice got underway this week and Josiah keeps busy with work, school, more work, and some play.  (I’m kinda feeling like I’m writing a Christmas letter here…sorry!  For those who haven’t received the disclaimer, this is more for me to keep track of my life than for your viewing pleasure).  We wrapped up our marriage class and boot camp comes to an end this week.  That should open up some time for our newest addition…..

KALYB IS COMING BACK!!  I am flying out to Germany to pick him up on Nov. 19th.  It will quite possibly be the longest 80 hours of my life but is sure to be well worth it!  He has had a challenging time over there and his mother has decided it would be best for him at this time to be back with us.  Please pray for Kalyb during the transition back to us, for Maggie (his mom) to have comfort and peace in her decision, and for us to glorify the Lord in all that we do.

So, needless to say, our life will be changing quite drastically over the next four weeks.  Hence the reason I decided to update now.  And before he arrives, I better go find that camera of mine again – you know I love snapping some family fotos!  Can’t wait to see what the next 12 weeks has in store….we have been blessed.

A-Z all about ME!

All the kind of stuff you were just dying to know… (sorry about the spacing…I copied and pasted and can’t quite figure it out)

A. age :: 29 – a few more months in my 20’s!!

B. bed size :: queen (I know, we’re large people and this is surprising…but plenty of room!)
C. chore you hate :: dusting.  UGH!  Thankfully we have a monthly inspection in our apartment since we live on campus, so this forces one of us to do it once a month – and this is my month L
D. dogs :: I could live without.  I know, I know.  My husband and I made a commitment to one year without dogs – and where we live doesn’t allow dogs, so I’ve got another three years of freedom!
E. essential start to your day :: get dressed, read my Bible, and make my lunch – then out the door
F. favorite color :: green, green, and more green!

G. gold or silver :: depends on what color I am wearing that day
H. height :: 6’3’’ – a self-proclaimed beast!
I. instruments you play :: Fail.  None!

J. job title :: Special Education Teacher/Junior High Coach

K. kids :: my wonderful Kalyb who – for those of you that haven’t heard – I get to go pick up in five weeks!!!  Perhaps more to come in the next few years?
L. live :: in Dallas, TX for at least the next three years – we’ll see where the Lord leads

M. maiden name :: Haskin (no ‘s’) to Dicken (no ‘s’)

N. nicknames :: Kar, Kar Bear, Special K

O. overnight hospital stays :: none for me.  Stayed overnight in the hospital for a week before Kisha passed away
P. pet peeve :: people licking their fingers, volleyball girls not hustling, and people not following through
Q. quote ::  

That one that goes something along the lines of ‘Dance like nobody’s watching, Love like you’ve never been hurt, Sing like nobody’s listening, and live like Heaven’s on earth’  

R. righty or lefty :: right, but I’ve always been impressed but lefties
S. siblings :: my amazing sister, Becca <3

T. time you wake up :: 5:45am- yuck!  About to be even earlier in basketball season (who signed me up for this?)
U. university attended :: University of North Texas, Trinity, and CSU Dominguez Hills

V. vegetables you dislike: peppers – yuck!

W. what makes you run late :: life in general.  I’m usually not that late, though.
X. x-rays you’ve had :: chiro stuff and dental stuff
Y. yummy food :: is there such thing as an ‘unyummy’ food?
Z. zoo animal favorite :: monkeys are cute.  So was that baby hippo at the San Diego zoo.

 

Come on, blogging friends!  You know you want to do this too….

Are you my friend?

So, we’ve been in Dallas just about two months exactly.  I know, I know – I haven’t blogged in almost three and you are just desperate to know what’s been going on these last two months!    We’ll save that for another post…

A few weeks ago, while at a training, I was in the bathroom and saw a girl that looked like someone I could be friends with.  I started laughing thinking about the book, ‘Are you my mother?’ and thought maybe I should start asking people, ‘Do you want to be my friend?’ in the same sense.

Having lived with a plethora of friends the last few years of my life and my sister (aka built in friend) before that, it has been a somewhat difficult transition out to Texas.  Yes, I have former teammates in the area.  But, we’re kind of all over the metroplex and we’ve only been able to get together once since I’ve been here.  And, yes, I have some college friends – but they’re an hour away, and when you want to meet up for a quick cup of coffee or daily debrief, that is a challenge.

I was spoiled getting to live with, work with, going to church with, working out with, and doing life with friends.  And, not just any friends – some creme de la creme (is that a phrase?) – some God-fearing women that challenged me, encouraged me, knew me and loved me.  So, I think we all know that I don’t necessarily have a lacking of solid friendships in my live, I am just in a season where I am lacking solid friends who live in my vicinity.  Woe is me, I know.

All this to say, I have had the sweetest last few days of the Lord reminding me that I do, in fact, have friends.  After being slightly depressed Thursday night as my husband left for a ‘men’s night’ and I was left by my lonesome.  I really didn’t want to go to my bootcamp, but chose to go and had the sweetest time talking to two different women there.  Just what my heart needed.
On the way home, I made a phone call and got to spend an hour

and a half talking with Susan, affectionately dubbed my ‘work mom’ -

what a blessing   Afterwards, I got to talk

to my Pops for a little bit which is always enjoyable!

Friday, I drove out to Ft. Worth because the one and only Jamie Friesen was in town with SDSU’s soccer team since they were playing TCU.  We got to spend some time in the lobby and then I tagged along for their pre-game meal and got called something along the lines of a ‘fat sausage’ – always the joy giver, that Jamie. 

Afterwards, I got to connect with Erin Sepp Hanson aka the Birthday girl for quite a while via phone!  Made me wish I was close by to share in a glass of wine and some of her cake, but it was great nonetheless!  Being friendless, you take what you can get!

Before working the football game, I got to spend time chatting with Lyndsey Huff – another personal favorite and friend since middle school.

Saturday, I spent two hours on Skype with the amazing Maria!  Just awesome and encouraging to hear all the things the Lord is doing in and through her and I’m just blessed to be a part of it!

I spent Saturday afternoon running errands and debating whether I wanted to go to my Pastor’s house for dinner for the new small group leaders.  After all, I have no friends and my husband couldn’t come with me since he was working.  I decided to go.  I spent the drive there talking to the fabulous Natalie – what a busy and emotional rollercoaster of a month she has had, and got the courage to enter in by my lonesome.

I probably looked hilarious surveying the crowd.  In my mind, I’m thinking, I need a friend and a mentor – who could you be?  I found a small group talking that included a girl about my age and a woman about my mom’s age and thought – jackpot!  This could be friend and mentor.  Although I didn’t end up exchanging information with them, I did befriend the girl who was sitting next to me at dinner and we had a great time chatting – a bonus is that she’s a hairdresser willing to barter for a massage   And, when I was going to leave, a girl followed me out and said she overheard me saying that we lived at CFNI and she does too!  So, we exchanged numbers so now I have a potential neighbor friend as well.  A blessed evening overall!

Spent the ride home chatting, catching up, venting to, and laughing with Jamie.  Oh my.  I miss that girl.  Rather than Sleepless in Seattle - we’re more along the lines of ‘Friendless in two different cities’.

Today, we spent the day with family – had a Skype date with Kalyb before church then to Grandma Kiki’s after church.  Then, over to Randy and Mari’s so that Josiah could help his dad work and Mari spoiled her daughter and I with pedicures before I headed home to ‘work’.

Well, the work idea has quickly gone out the window since I realized that my friend Sarah Hennes from my UNT Eagle Ambassador days is actually going to swing by any minute now!  YAH!  (She just departed…a quick trip, but so fun to laugh and get great hugs!!)

And, I’m hoping to connect with Mistie on a phone date tonight since we’ve unsuccessfully played phone tag for two months now (would the be considered successful since it’s been going on that long?  Just unsuccessful in the talking time, but successful in the tag time?)

Anyways, no need to worry, friends – I do, in fact, have some friends!  And, most importantly – I’ve been learning lots in my time with the Lord and get to live with my best friend, that amazing Hubs of mine!

Our bags are packed, we’re ready to go…

We can’t believe it!  I cannot believe that tomorrow afternoon there will be a moving truck arriving at our home to load ‘er up!  I must tell you – this is the most pre-packing I’ve ever done with ANY of my moves (and, let me tell you, I’ve had quite my share of moves for my 29 years….in fact, I’m a number kinda girl and now I want to count: Concord-Encinitas-Carmel-Alpharetta-Scottsdale 1-Scottsdale 2-Denton/Dorm1-Denton/Dorm2 – Denton/Apartment – Spain (just a summer, but still)-LongBeach-Gardena-Torrance-Gardena-Casa Schneple-Casa Camden-Home with Hubs – back to Dallas~ going on my 17th move here!)  .

Anyways, my dad would be proud…I remember him showing up in Torrance to help my sister and I move to Gardena and we hadn’t packed one thing.  We didn’t even had a box – I just figured we could use bags and luggage and such.  Needless to say, he was not impressed.  However, when one is financially responsible for their own move and how much the pack determines how much they don’t have to pay someone to pack, it really lights a fire under ya!  Also, when Kalyb left it turned to be a good distraction to fill the quiet house and quiet my sadness.  I almost think it  would be harder to stay with all the memories the revolve around Kalyb now.

Another good thing is the fact that I’ve thrown all the tantrums that I could early on in this process.  So I went through the angry, feel sorry for myself, don’t wanna go fits throughout most of April and May.  I cried a lot thinking of moving and leaving my family and friends…even though my family is great and will do their darndest to get out there as often as they can…and my friends are awesome and they know they’re ‘lifers’ in my book and I’m not against a healthy dose of stalking someone in order to keep in contact.  So, it will be okay.  All is well with my soul.  I’m actually excited about our return to the Lone Star State…in fact, when I left there in 2005, I left with the promise I’d return in two years.  Well, six years later I figure it’s about time I make well on that promise!  (Is that even a saying?  I think it’s something like that, but can’t think of it for sure.)  Forgive me, part of my brain has ended up amidst all the boxes we’ve packed.

It is also a sweet, sweet thing to think of the Lord’s provision through all of this – we started praying specifically for $4,000 and for a full-time job for me back in February or so.  As you might know from a previous blog, the $4,000 was provided.  And then taken away.  So I doubted.  I questioned.  I really didn’t want to go and leave a job that I love.  ’Maybe we’re supposed to go next year?’  Kinda shows my heart a little bit – I trust the Lord as long as circumstances are in my favor, but as soon as they change, I waver.  I’m praying about that – for that faith.  That faith that doesn’t waver – that knows the calling of the Lord and knows that He is mighty and sovereign and a Provider at His core.  Anyways, as we trusted and continued to move forward in planning to go – He provided.  We received part of our taxes back that became the money to physically move.  Josiah sold his SUV which became his money to pay for tuition (it’s been kinda fun this week playing taxi with each other as we navigate sharing one car).  And, off we go!  The last day of work here, I had my final interview and a job offer with Life School in Oak Cliff.  I will be teaching High School English for students in Special Ed and I will be coaching volleyball and basketball.  What a blessing!  I absolutely cannot wait to work for my principal and I’m thrilled that the campus is 1.5miles from where we’ll be living – and just so happens to be on the campus where Josiah grew up going to youth group!  Talk about full circle!  What an interview process that was though.  Wore.  Me.  Out!  I stalked the principal when I was in Dallas…she wasn’t there, but called asking me to come back the following day.  I obliged.  I showed up and she had been called to an emergency meeting but the office staff requested I return after lunch.  We went back and as I walked in I heard the office staff cheering that I had returned!  I then had a 45 minute conversation with the principal (who I grew to love over that period).  As other schools called and interviewed and skyped, I emailed her letting her know I really wanted to work for her and what should I do…she assured me I should keep praying and that if I was supposed to end up there, I would.  Yes ma’am.

So, after an informal phone interview with her, a formal phone interview with her, a formal skype interview with the Director of Special Education, an informal phone chat with the head basketball coach, an informal interview with the Athletic Director and a formal phone interview with the assistant Superintendent – I was hired.  Apparently they’re pretty thorough.  Obviously!  I was thrilled to accept the position – even if it means I have to be back in Texas a week early.  So, now, instead of a five day rendezvous in Colorado with Josiah’s family and some friends, it’s back to the Big D where I’ll be crashing on the couch of a teammate and getting my feet wet with this new endeavor!  I can’t believe the ‘Dicken Tour’ begins tomorrow!!  I’m still working summer school and we have a few more things to pack – but then we’re golden!

We’ve also been blessed finding out that Christ for the Nations just began offering a Bachelors program!  So, Josiah will be able to finish there in three years with his Bachelors in Practical Ministry!  I was looking at the course schedule and I don’t know how long I’ll be able to resist taking some classes for.  Just one or two!  They look AWESOME!  I can’t wait to learn what he’s learning and to live in a community with a bunch of other Christian families (it will be fun for a season) and to just learn, grow, and strengthen each other in our marriage, with our family, and most importantly in our own walks with the Lord.  Also, Josiah is still eligible for some of his money from the Army to go towards school – so we’re excited to see how much that will cover.

In the meantime, we’ll keep busy.  Here’s our schedule of events (I know you’re just dying to know):

• Thursday – MOVING VAN
• Friday – I finish work then we’re heading up to Orange County with my mom and Jim.  We’ll have a going away party here and we’ll be here until Monday
• Monday – drive to Phoenix to spend some time with my Pops and my friends.  We’ll have round 3 of going away parties here and then head out on Saturday
• Saturday – drive to El Paso where we’ll meet up with all my dad’s family to continue to celebrate my Gramps’ life as we have his military funeral on Monday
• Tuesday – head up to Canyon where we’ll stay with Josiah’s sister and family until Thursday
• Thursday – fly to Detroit to see all of my mom’s family and celebrate my Grandma’s 93rd birthday and many other things~I’ll be leaving a day early to return to Dallas
• Monday – I fly home to Dallas to start work Tuesday morning
• Tuesday – I start work as Josiah flies to Colorado to spend time with his family until Saturday at which time he’ll drive back to Canyon with Nichole and then Sunday he’ll drive back to Dallas to meet back up with me!!
• Monday, August 8th – I continue with work and Josiah gets to check us into CFNI.  Perhaps we’ll have the moving truck drop our belongings off on this day?
• Tuesday, August 9th – WE WILL CELEBRATE OUR ONE YEAR ANNIVERSARY!!!!!!!

Okay, I’m sure that’s way more information that anybody needs.  But, really this is more for me than you anyway  I tend to forget major memories in my life…which is why I document via blog!  So, enjoy, best wishes!  Feel free to pray for our safe travels, our transition, and whatever else you feel led!